There you are, standing on the shore, looking out into the vast, fog-dimmed distance.
You are waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
You scan the horizon for a glimmer of light; some tell-tale whisper that the ship you are waiting for is arriving.
You begin to wonder, "Did I miss it? Has my ship sailed? Did I miss the boat?"
If you've ever asked yourself these questions, you know what it is like to wonder if your dreams will ever come true.
Every fear, every doubt, every past failure and disappointment looms larger than your dream. They all strive make you believe that what you are hoping for will never happen. The aim of these dream killers? Keep you on the shore.
Destiny shows up from time to time to invite you to participate in the adventure of your life. Depending on your circumstances, frame of mind, and internal courage meter, you either take Destiny up on the offer, or slink away, hoping for another invitation on a better day.
The darkest fog bank is our limiting self-belief. We choose to support our friends and family in their pursuits. Yet our dreams gather dust like the sailing ship replica that was given to my husband years ago. It is beautiful, but the sails and rigging have captured years of unreachable dust particles. From a distance is it striking. Up close, not so much. Untended, our dreams begin to shrink away from view, like the boat that approaches the horizon and falls off the edge of the earth.
As you've glanced through these posts, you may have wondered why in the world this blog even exists. Sometimes it's all business. And then on other days, it seems all personal.
The reason is simple. The life of women is neither all business nor all personal. Our lives are strung together with the rigging of emotions, events and decisions.
In the midst of our most personal interactions, the voice of responsibility and duty yells from the outer rooms, demanding attention. In our most critical business ventures, the joy or pain of our personal experiences dance on the periphery of our sight - waltzing in and out of the meeting - defying our most harsh reprimand to wait until later.
This doesn't make us weak and incapable of incredible business success or meaningful relationships. This tension of life makes us powerful beyond the scope of classical knowledge. We live observing everything around us, making decisions not just on data, but also with intuition and insight.
Yet, when we constantly choose someone else's dream or hope over our own, the joy of life disappears. We find ourselves standing on the sidelines watching everyone else dance, or looking out to sea, wondering if there our ship has left us behind.
When we constantly choose someone else's dream over our own, the joy of life disappears.
Your Ship. Your Dance. Your Destiny.
What would you do if you WEREN'T AFRAID?
What would you do if MONEY WASN’T LACKING?
What would you do if TIME WASN’T AN ISSUE?
What would you do if I KNEW YOU COULDN’T FAIL?
What would you do if YOU WEREN'T AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE THOUGHT OF YOU?
Do the questions shake you a little? Have you allowed yourself the luxury of thinking WHAT IF??? Do you feel like your hopes and dreams seem too big to even consider? Maybe you believe that it is too late for you. Or, that no one will take you seriously because of your age, or your past, or even the present.
No matter your age or life situation, Destiny continues to leave clues for you to follow all the way to the seashore and your ship.
Find time over the next 24 hours to look at the past opportunities that have presented themselves. Some of them, you've said no. Some, you've said yes. In each circumstance, ask yourself this giant question. Why?
Was it something you really wanted to do, or felt you had to do? Why did you want to? Why did you have to?
What kept you from saying yes?
What made you say no?
Would you change your answer if you had the choice today?
Is there any way you CAN change your answer today?
Dreamboat Annie ~ Heart
Heading out this morning into the sun
Riding on the diamond waves, little darlin' one
Warm wind caress her
Her lover it seems
Dreamboat Annie my little ship of dreams
Going down the city sidewalk alone in the crowd
No one knows the lonely one whose head's in the clouds
Sad faces painted over with those magazine smiles
Heading out to somewhere won't be back for a while
Dreamboat Annie Songwriter: Ann Wilson
It isn't always the RIGHT time to follow a particular dream. That doesn't mean that it won't be the RIGHT time later on. The secret is to prepare yourself now. When you know what your true passion and purpose is, you can take steps here and there to prepare the pathway. To borrow a phrase, pack your bugout bag now, so you'll be ready the next time Destiny knocks.
Pack your bugout bag now, so you'll be ready the next time Destiny knocks.
Dance with Destiny
My personal dance with destiny has helped me discover the passion and purpose of my life. If you look over the times you've been invited to step onto the ship or share in the dance, you'll discover your deepest desires, too.
I was probably 10 or 11 when I first knew that I wanted to be a writer. I have notebooks filled with musings, poems, songs, teen-aged drama and young married sonnets.
In my 20's I enrolled in one of those magazine you can be a writer courses. It cost me more money than I could afford. I withdrew. From then on, I dabbled at writing, but knew that only the elite truly were ever published, so it was not something to consider as a way to earn money. Destiny visited. I said no.
Last year, I learned that you don't have to wait for a traditional publisher to show up and give you a contract. The incredible industry of eBooks has bloomed over the last 5 or so years, and now anyone with a story to tell or a service to share can publish their books. Today, I am a published author. Destiny knocked. I opened the door, hopped on the ship and danced around the decks. I took the time to read books on the process by guys like Steve Scott, learn marketing from experts like Jonathan Gunson, and join Facebook groups like Pat Flynn's Kindle Publishing Facebook Group .
I learned that once I got past my fear, I was a very good public speaker. People like my voice. I have enough drama to be engaging and not so much as to be annoying. I'm even funny at times. I was presented with a lot of opportunities through work and ministry to speak and share from the heart. When I left my last company due to Richard's health, those doors have seemed to close. I'm waiting on Destiny to show up again.
What I'm learning though is that the industry is changing. Even though key note speakers are still in demand, event holders are looking for people who will come in and share their expertise for free or low cost, and then they give them the opportunity to share their products and services with the audience. Maybe this time, all I need to do is invite Destiny to walk with ME!
At my heart of hearts, I love to help women believe in themselves. Maybe this is because I was incredibly timid as a younger woman. I sat on the sidelines wishing I was braver, or cooler, or faster, or taller or....well, almost anything but what I was. I didn't see anything special about myself. I couldn't see anything that others saw. My own low self opinion colored my ability to interact and create friendships. So, one perspective colored all of my interactions. Instead of being seen as shy, I was perceived as a bit stuck up. *Sigh*
Once I learned to stand up and step out, my life has changed dramatically. I've had the chance to meet women from all over the world, to travel, to learn and to help others develop new skills and belief patterns. Now, all the things I've worked through in the past are part of the way I express my purpose and passion. There were times I thought the ship had sailed, but in reality, it was the wrong boat.
My fears came along to the dance. And I left them on the sidelines. Now, I am able to coach, teach and train women from all walks of life on how to enter into their dreams and purpose. I'm privileged to watch them board the ship of their dreams and set sail.
STYX – Come Sail AwayI'm sailing away set an open course for the virgin sea
I've got to be free, free to face the life that's ahead of me
On board I'm the captain so climb aboard
We'll search for tomorrow on every shore
And I'll try oh Lord I'll try to carry on
I look to the sea reflections in the waves spark my memory
Some happy some sad
I think of childhood friends and the dreams we had
We live happily forever so the story goes
But somehow we missed out on that pot of gold
But we'll try best that we can to carry on
A gathering of angels appeared above my head
They sang to me this song of hope and this is what they said
They said come sail away come sail away
Come sail away with me
Come sail away come sail away
Come sail away with me
I thought that they were angels but to my surprise
They climbed aboard their starship and headed for the skies
Singing come sail away come sail away
Come sail away with me
Come sail away come sail away
Come Sail Away With Me Songwriter: Dennis DeYoung
Today, I want to be a voice that says to you, "Climb aboard the ship of your dreams. Dance across the decks in the open sea. Take a chance. Set your sails and head toward your future with joy and purpose."
Climb aboard the ship of your dreams. Dance across the decks. Take a chance. Set your sails. Head toward your future with joy and purpose.
Live At Your Best ~ Live Inspired